I'm very sorry, Ron. Having it happen in front of a load of other people makes the rejection just that much more awful. It feels more...personal.
Maybe he just hasn't had much experience with friendships. Real friendships like you and I have, I mean. Maybe he does it because he lives in a fishbowl all the time, and so he often expects that people he doesn't know very well only are trying to get close to him because they want something. I'm not saying you're like that at all, you understand. But he doesn't know that. And I'm not saying it's right, either.
Sometimes understanding doesn't make it feel any less rotten. And sometimes you can't understand it at all.
And I don't think Mum will be 'happy' about this, honest. She'd vastly prefer to have your friendships be good ones, rather than give you a load of grief, trust me.
What do you want to happen with him, at this point? Are you hoping he'll change his mind, or have you given up on him entirely? Maybe there's still a way you can be at least respectful acquaintances, instead of wand-drawing antagonists. While still keeping your own self-respect, you know.
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Date: 2010-09-03 04:43 pm (UTC)Maybe he just hasn't had much experience with friendships. Real friendships like you and I have, I mean. Maybe he does it because he lives in a fishbowl all the time, and so he often expects that people he doesn't know very well only are trying to get close to him because they want something. I'm not saying you're like that at all, you understand. But he doesn't know that. And I'm not saying it's right, either.
Sometimes understanding doesn't make it feel any less rotten. And sometimes you can't understand it at all.
And I don't think Mum will be 'happy' about this, honest. She'd vastly prefer to have your friendships be good ones, rather than give you a load of grief, trust me.
What do you want to happen with him, at this point? Are you hoping he'll change his mind, or have you given up on him entirely? Maybe there's still a way you can be at least respectful acquaintances, instead of wand-drawing antagonists. While still keeping your own self-respect, you know.